it seems to be a phrase I use with nearly all, if not all, of my coaching clients.
“…yet.”
“I’m not good at managing my team,” they say to me.
“…yet” I offer them.
“I still get so triggered by that. I can’t handle it.”
“…yet I offer them.
“There’s no way I’ll be able to do that,” they say to me.
“Not yet, “ I offer.
I offer this to myself as well.
When we choose to say, “I can’t do that…yet,” “I haven’t figured that out…yet” “I don’t think I’ll ever understand that…well at least not yet” we offer a tiny glimpse in our brain to the possibility that it/we can shift our perspective and learn new reactions and behaviors. We move from a Fixed Mindset, where we know we are limited and will always remain the way we are, to a Growth Mindset, where we realize that change and growth is possible and even probable.
Our brains get very comfortable seeing us the way we currently see us. We’re good at what we’re good at. We’re bad at what we’re bad at. We are the way we are.
But we’re not. Our brain has endless power to shift to learn to evolve to grow. And the way we talk to ourselves (and others) makes a huge difference in how hard or easy that is.
The next time you find yourself limiting yourself, throw in a “…yet” or “…not yet,” and see what happens.
It is one small – yet huge – step to loving ourselves and caring for ourselves and wanting and getting the best for ourselves and from ourselves.
To loving ourselves First Most Always.
Let me know how it goes.
I’d love to hear your thoughts, and please share this post with others if it resonates with you. Let’s start a movement of loving ourselves First Most Always™️!