I was just with new friends, and one of them was talking about the way she feels when she walks into her house. “I’m home. I’m relaxed. It’s like I’ve created a haven for myself.”
I feel the same way, and it’s a damn good way to love yourself First Most Always™️ (even though this made it on my list well before I had my new home).
When we love ourselves, truly love ourselves, we want to take care of ourselves as much as we do the other people we love, which includes creating a space that brings out our best and gives us our best. It can be a room. A home. A chair. A corner. An altar.
Pretty much anything.
When I moved into my new home, I decided I would go the extra bit and make each room, each space in each room as much as possible, something and someplace that brought me joy. I bought extra pillows and throws for the beds. I hung paintings and photos. I carefully arranged objects that made me smile throughout the house. (I’ve been told that “curating” is one of my skills.)
I never would have really done this before. Danny’s (my dad) money mostly went for drugs and baroque recorders. Possessions were sinful (except if they were for Moon or his family). I learned not to want or have and definitely not to buy.
But this time, I splurged on the little things. A tall candle for the candle stick because it was cool. A beautiful pot. Flowers from the farmers market each week.
I created many places I like to sit (check out my deck with a yellow umbrella!). I created comfort all around me.
Creating a big – or small – sanctuary for ourselves is one more way to remind ourselves of how much we matter to ourselves. How much we deserve and want to bring ourselves joy. One more way to love ourselves First Most Always™️.
Try it and let me know how it goes!
I’d love to hear your thoughts, and please share this post with others if it resonates with you. Let’s start a movement of loving ourselves First Most Always™️!